the first week of school, everyone is clamoring for friends. the friends you make in the first week will, most likely, not be the friends you end up keeping. that’s okay. keep meeting new people and talk to people in your classes.
don’t start dating someone until you’re settled. or you’ll end up in a relationship with a christian republican boy when REALLY YOU’RE A LESBIAN
wait at least two months to get a tattoo.
It’s okay to get food by yourself. The first time you go to the dining hall alone, you’ll feel like everyone thinks you’re a loser and feel really awkward, but eventually you will begin to LOVE sitting down with your laptop and a bowl of cocoa puffs with nobody to bother you.
you can go to the gym alone, too.
if someone asks you to do something or hang out, DO IT. I don’t care if you have social anxiety or don’t feel like going out. it’ll be fun. you’ll be glad you did.
you are going to be overpacked. when you go to Target to get all your dorm stuff, they’re gonna give you a list. You need about 1/6th of those things.
getting a hot pink refrigerator to match your bright turquoise bed sheets, lamp, and rug, might seem like a great idea, but you’re gonna get tired of this stuff eventually. besides, if it’s from bed bath and beyond or target…suzie down the hall is going to have the exact same stuff. shop around.
quilts are great.
If you don’t wanna spend the money on a mini fridge, a small wine cooler works too.
freshman 15 is a very real thing. even if you make it the whole semester without gaining a pound, you will lock yourself in your room and eat costco-sized boxes of bagel bites during finals. but its ok, you’ll work it off and look even better than before.
at orientation, you’re going to hear people tell you to join clubs CONSTANTLY. That’s because you should. You’ll meet awesome people who share the same interests as you, and even if you don’t become besties, its great to have a network.
School spirit is cool.
Don’t be afraid to go to parties, but use your common sense. Don’t drink and drive, and for the love of god, don’t smoke weed in the dorms. FIND A SPOT IN THE WOODS.
Can’t decide if you want to join a sorority/fraternity? Go to a few recruitment events and see if you’re a fit. I went, decided I wasn’t, and ended up rushing a co-ed academic fraternity my sophomore year. You’ll find what fits for you.
When you get your syllabi at the beginning of the year, most of your classes will have all the assignment dates listed. Put them all on different colored sticky notes on your wall so you can look at it and see exactly what you need to do. Take them down as they’re completed.
Get a calendar and agenda, and use them.
College is going to feel like summer camp for the first couple weeks, but eventually it’s going to just feel like home. Your friends become your family. Also, it may not always seem like it, but you’re responsible for your choices now. Know when to marry the night and when to go to bed early. Both are okay.
Your mom is going to cry when she drops you off. She will be okay.
And I’ll say it again: everyone is in the same boat. You’re all freaked out, and you don’t have any reason to be. College isn’t like high school. People are, in general, kind and helpful. You will be okay.
I love this. Gives me hope after a whirlwind and stressful orientation that I just completed.
for any of my followers who are going to college for the first time!
After my rush of college questions the other day, this seems appropriate. ALL OF IT IS TRUE.
Except my mom didn’t cry. My dad cried. Which was worse.
A few things to add.
You may start out going “I only have four classes? AND THEY DON’T MEET EVERY DAY?” The idea of having two 1.5 hour classes in one day…AND THAT’S ALL…might seem like this is going to be a breeze, but remember the college courses pack a lot into their time and you will be expected to do much more outside of class.
Please, please exercise. Even if you just go for walks or take a swim a few times a week. I don’t give a shit about the freshman fifteen, but some exercise will help keep you sharper, it’ll help you sleep better, it’ll make you FEEL better at a time when you’re under stress and are probably not taking as good care of yourself.
FIND YOUR SPOT. Could be a corner of the library, one couch in the student union, a chair in your dorm’s living room, wherever. Have a spot you like and feel comfortable and where you can get away from your dorm/roommates, which you will sometimes want to do.
Pursue at least one thing that you love doing that has nothing to do with your course of study. Music? Painting? Theater? Art? Sports? Whatever it is, find a way to pursue it. College isn’t just about grades, it’s about discovering who you are and having experiences, and all that doesn’t come out of the pages of a book.
Your freshman year might not be your year. You might come out with low grades, no friends, and an eternal wet spot on your pillow. That doesn’t mean your next year won’t be great! Seriously, I can count the number of times I ate with someone else all year during freshman year on one hand.
If you’re in a city, use it! My best friends I’ve made in college don’t even go to my college - hell, they don’t have the same native tongue! Use the internet to find hobby meetups and people in your area. This might be especially useful for people like me who close up in group settings (like all those freshman orientation things) and need to talk to people one-on-one to establish a relationship.
You’re probably going to hit a lot of walks of life that make you uncomfortable. (I, for example, do not like drunk/wasted company at all.) That’s okay. And it’s okay to be uncomfortable. Express your discomfort to your friends and families. And if something makes you uncomfortable, you don’t have to try it.
REMEMBER TO EAT. I know OP talks about the freshman 15, but er, I seem to have misplaced mine, plus 20 more. Sometimes it’s easy to be overwhelmed by choices, or put off eating because there’s no set time with the family, or just not be particularly interested by the food. But eat. Three times a day. Your stomach, health, and grades will thank you.
You might be homesick! You might miss high school! I did; it was so strange that none of my teachers knew my name, that I didn’t see the same kids I grew up with, or that I wasn’t biking along the same road to school every day. I missed it like hell and ended up crying over Google Maps street view every once in a while. Call your ‘rents when this happens, or talk to someone from home. And then, the next day, get out with a new friend in your area. Eventually, college will be home too.
Try to go to class! In college, it can be tempting to skip giant lectures, especially when they’ll be online later. But there’s something about going to the lectures at the same time every day that cultivates a more hard-working mentality and keeps you on top of things. I tried to learn statistics just from the book last year. Big whoops.
Also study groups or reading groups. A lot of kids set up study groups on their own for classes. This helps a lot, so while it might feel like “another class” at times, no, it’s good, go there.
me before shaving my legs:oh god do i really have to can't i be a fucking hobbit why would you even care if my legs are hairy maybe if i don't shave them for a month i will have fur as soft as cat's
me after shaving my legs:JESUS VIRGIN MARY'S TITS SUCKER CHRIST THIS IS THE BEST FEELING IN THE WORLD where are all the people i have to make them touch my legs if i were a legophile i would totally do me so soft so beautiful